I find myself asking others what their goals are, both in the near future and what may seem like the far off distance. Growth is something I find fascinating about any individual. We should all strive to continually better ourselves. Adding new things, no matter how great or small, to your bucket list is an extremely important growth exercise. It is also an amazing feeling to be able to look back at it and be able to tick some things off, whether you consciously realized this has been a goal for a long time.
Typically I try to revisit my list every 5 or so years. Wow, have some of my values changed drastically, while others have stayed the exact same. I took a moment to reflect on my previous list and newly updated one.
Biggest Difference!
When I was younger, I wanted to get married, at a young age, I wanted to be a good wife, have children shortly after marriage, take some time off of being a nurse, and raise the children. Cooking and massage classes were on my list so I could do so better for my future husband, whomever he may be.
Now, I already know my DNA will be passed down because my gay best friend is going to be accepting my eggs once he is ready to have children with his soon-to-be-husband. Technically this is a huge relief for me because I already have that guarantee..
But I am baby crazy, I have been since I was a little girl, and volunteering at the hospital in the paediatric ward only made my love for kids even stronger.. I know I am going to be a great momma one day. It’s not the top of my priority list though because business has overthrown that. In my heart I know that if/when I have kids I’m going to want to 100{6c91790f823c1bc7d4c4fa0f06ba05617ace55b8227d54f65a71d491c2138ae8} fully invest myself into them. But with my dreams and aspirations being so big they scare me sometimes, I almost feel like I have to choose between a family and prosperous career. Unless, I find the perfect man who supports me and thinks the same way I do, who would also be totally comfortable being a stay at home daddy just after I finish breast feeding the kids. Children need their mom at the earliest stages of their lives, but I do believe it is still extremely important for them to get a lot of time in with their father as well because they can’t have the same connection as mothers do with their children. I’m all for those stay-at-home-Dad’s.. Yes, I have thought in great detail about building a family as my future.
Similarities:
I still want to: volunteer in a country in Africa, go skydiving, bungee jumping, learn to speak Mandarin fluently, drive on the left side of the road, run a marathon, see an opera, go to a broadway in Chicago, a play in Europe, visit my cousin in Korea, help each sibling achieve greatness, invest in multiple businesses, start my non-profit, and change the world.
Most are in the developmental stage, but I have no doubt that all of them will happen.
Some things that have happened:
I have saved a life, moved out of Aldergrove, graduate, go to university, left the continent, directed a motivational video, directed a music video (Multiple now), been to Hawaii, threw a stagette, organized many charity events, worked in Asia, and fallen deeply in love.
It may not seem like a lot, but since I wrote this in high school I have learned so much about myself and others. Pushing myself outside my comfort zone taught me about failure and success, not playing life by the book or being safe all the time, and has taught me far more than any institutionalized educational system can. I do plan on going back to school at some point because I am thirsty for more knowledge.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, reflecting, adding, and accomplishing things from your bucket list shouldn’t be for the picture, or to brag about it. We should look back and realize what we can accomplish if we set forward to do so…
Just wait and watch myself partner with others to change the world… It may seem like lightyears away, but it’s really just around the corner.